The below information was taken from a more indepth article from the Alabama Coalition Against Domestic Violence website at http://www.acadv.org/abusers.html. 

Abusers may try to manipulate their partners, especially after a violent episode.

He may try to "win" her back in some of these ways:

• Invoking sympathy from her, her family and friends.
• Talking about his "difficult childhood".
• Becoming overly charming, reminding her of the good times they've had.
• Bringing romantic gifts, flowers, dinner.
• Crying, begging for forgiveness.
• Promising it will "never happen again."
• Promising to get counseling, to change.

Abuse gets worse and more frequent over time